Why And When It's Okay To Lose Yourself

On August 2, 2014, I wrote this while sitting on a park bench in Santa Barbara at 1:38am. What the hell was I doing there?

Well, I was lost.

Here's what I wrote.

I like being lost. 

When I was young (IIRC, I was 8-9), my family got lost in the woods during a camping trip hike. It was exciting, but it was also frustrating. 

The reason why it was frustrating was because I knew the way back to the campsite.

But no one listened to me.

Looking back, I assume it was because I was young. But in retrospect, maybe they didn't want to go back to the campsite yet. Perhaps they wanted to get lost on purpose.

Life isn't easy. Sometimes you want to stroll through the woods and get lost. You want to step away from it all. You want to walk amongst the trees and pretend that's all that exists. 

It's nice being lost, but only when it's done intentionally. When being lost is done on purpose.

Unintentionally loss, however, sucks. Being homeless, unemployed, or on the verge of suicide are some examples of ways you don't want to get lost.

But being lost with on purpose ...with intention?

That's the type of lost that's exciting, because it's a way to challenge yourself. If you wake up today and intend to get yourself lost, you're inviting a world of limitless imagination to your doorstep.

Perhaps that's a way to wake up, every day. 

I don't know everything, but I know I'm lost right now. I'm hundreds of miles from home.

And I'm okay with that.

I have my pen, notebook, and thoughts.

There's nothing else I need.

It's been about 2 years since I wrote that.

Nothing's changed. 

No matter what happens and where we're at, sometimes being lost is a way to find the answer, hope, or solution what you're looking for.

I guarantee it.

By the way, we eventually made it back to the campsite. They ended up listening to me. I did, in fact, know the way back.

Which brings me another point. Sometimes someone unexpected has the answer you're looking for. Don't disacknowledge someone because of their age, appearance, or status.

As long as someone has good intentions, give them a chance.

Raymond Duke