My search for love

The number one reason why committed relationships fail — such as marriage — is money.

I'll explain why that'll never be an issue for me in moment.

First, a little backstory.

During my 20s, I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life. I wasn't ready to commit to anything. I was in a few relationships, but I knew from the beginning they wouldn't last forever.

In my early 30s, I found what I wanted to do with the rest of my life — read and write. Turns out, there's something called copywriting that allows me to do just that; I get to tap my keys and make money.

Even better, I can do so from anywhere in the world. I broke up with my girlfriend (we weren't happy anyway) and pursued my love of copywriting. Things have been getting better ever since.

Now that I'm 36, I realize:

The woman I'm with will never have to worry about money again. 

I've done the hard work of being a sole provider in a relationship. I've developed a skill that allows me to never go broke!

That's not to say she can't make money — she just doesn't have to. I don't intend in having money interfere with love.

What she does, doesn't matter. She can be a painter or an astrophysicist; a dog walker or baker; a teacher or a stripper (or both). 

That's not to say I'll take care of just anyone. There are things I require.

  • Trust
  • Loyalty
  • Support
  • Intimacy
  • Conversation
  • Love

These are the things I need to continue to be strong and successful.

I live a unique life. In the previous country I stayed in, South Korea, I learned a lot about the dynamic of their relationships. More than 50% of Korean men cheat on their wives... but since it's part of their culture, it's not acknowledged. The women, as an act of a revent, end up cheating on their husbands.

Like I said, the culture supports it. Working 10-hour days, pressure from older company men to "stick to tradition", and — you guessed it — money, cause flimsy marriages.

This isn't just an Asian phenomenon. The more I travel, the more I realized people are unhappy with their lives. They do things they don't want and partner with people for the wrong reasons. 

Fuck that.

I've never liked rules. Life's too short to follow the herd.

I'm single, successful, and happy with my life. Should I love — or should it find me — I'll accept it.

If I don't, I will still live a fascinating life.

Raymond Duke